Fremdeln the baby is a sign of maturity

Fremdeln the baby is a sign of maturity and a completely normal behavior. Learn when the Fremdel phase reached its peak and how relaxed respond to the mistrust of your child.

fremdeln: "Eight months anxiety"

Fremdeln the baby

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Recently, grandparents, guests, the postman and the neighbors were friendly smiled in the hallway, but suddenly your baby reacts unusually skeptical and scared to other people, and even the dad (or mom). It hides behind you or want your arm ...

Congratulations, your baby fremdelt!

What to congratulate there? With the entry into the Fremdel phase your baby has taken an important step in its development: It can now distinguish between friends and strangers. And it has chosen to his closest caregiver. You should take as a great compliment! In general, the fear of strangers begins in the eighth month. Therefore, in the literature often from the "Eight months anxiety" spoken. The climax is the fear of strangers usually in the second year of life and decreases the age of 3 and gradually decreased.

Typical behavior of a child fremdelnden:

• anxious gaze or stiffening
• close body contact with the closest caregiver veritable "stick"
   on the mother or the father
• repellency
• Contact refusal
• cry and scream
• bad mood when other people are present

But even a positive interest and a curiosity about the supposedly strangers are typical of the fear of strangers. Once your child feels safe on your arm, it will consider the unknown person accurately and also engage them after a while.
Fremdeln is not a result of improper upbringing

Fremdeln not caused by parenting mistakes, but it is just an expression of an important new development step. "The sensory perception of children is differentiated at this time"Explains psychologist Sybille Weber. "The child is able from now on to distinguish between familiar and the strange. Not every smile is therefore replied happily. The mature child changes from blind faith to a healthy distrust of the new."

This distrust is also a smart parental control nature. For the newly awakened fears ensure that the baby always remains close to familiar people. A caregiver, usually it is the mother, it acts as a safe haven. This liferaft may initially be completely out of sight ever. This can ask pretty as mom or dad, you just but protects mobile become baby from situations where it is not grown alone.

Typical for fear of strangers: The baby is hiding

"Those who are not my mother, must be first checked out skeptical"

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Children fremdeln different

Almost every child is in a period of Fremdelns. The only difference is the way and the intensity is gefremdelt with. Some overcome the fear of strangers and new situation quite quickly, others are in everything is cautious new for years. Often the openness of the child is also related to his current mental state and his experiences. Depending on the fear of strangers is, for example, also on how the strangers approach the child (too loud, too fast, too intrusive?) and how to work as a bond person with unknown people. Therefore, children of mothers often sociable fremdeln less than children whose mothers are even more reserved. 


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